Volleyball a lesson in leadership

I am at my younger daughter's volleyball game this afernoon and notice how quickly each team tries to get the ball over the net as compaired with my older daughters team. I am struck by the similarities of new leaders verse experienced leaders. The more experienced leader tends to see keeping the ball on their side as a strategic advantage. Setting the play up, slowing it down long enough to go for the spike or killer shot. Are you exhaling when the ball is on your side of the net? Or are you rushing to get it off your side?